Finding my voice
Years later, I find myself wishing that I had spoken up more than I did, a lot more.
During the season of Lent I am blogging on Sundays for the Reformed Journal. Here is my post for March 19…
“Regret,” says author Brené Brown, “is a tough but fair teacher.” The idea, she writes, is that regret gives us the opportunity to grow, to make amends, to be better than we have been.
I suppose there is some truth to that. We learn – or ought to learn – from our mistakes, the things we said and did that we now wish we hadn’t, that we would say or do differently if only we had the chance.
When I retired and sat down to write about my more than forty years of ministry, which is how I decided to process my working life, the regrets I thought about were mostly not the result of things I said or did. Overall, with only a few exceptions, I felt pretty good about the things I said and did.
What I regretted were the things I didn’t say, or failed to say, but should have.